Why Can’t You Accept Me For The Way I Am?
Posted by Mr. Sensitive on April 15, 2008
Do you remember when Airline Attendants were hot?
Me neither.
The only reason why I ask this question is to illustrate another difference between men and women.
Women think: “It’s nice to see that an older woman has the ability to handle such a demanding job.”
Men think: “Why do I always get stuck with these ^&%#$ squat walruses on my flights?”
The same thought process occurs in relationships. For some reason, women tend to go into “change this man” mode whenever they think that a relationship has a 0.0001% chance of going somewhere. Men just want sex.
A couple of examples:
The girlfriend states that you need a dog (if you don’t already have one). The guy wonders why he needs to spend the next ten to twelve years picking up some animal’s shit… when he’s not thinking about banging this chick.
The girlfriend indicates that you need to get more furniture to replace the junk that you already have. The guy thinks that he’s just broken in his Salvation Army rescued couch to fit his favorite reclining position…meaning that he can still see the television with his girlfriend on top.
The girlfriend starts criticizing your choices in clothes and friends…while you’re thinking about better uses for her mouth.
What do you think would happen if we start to suggest way to “improve” certain areas of our women’s lives? Like how they dress? Or how they fix their hair and makeup? Or how much they weigh?
The moral of this story centers on why women go to such lengths to change their men and yet demand that we accept them in their current state.
I used to work with a woman a few years ago who could not understand why a guy couldn’t accept her because she weighed 150 pounds. (Let’s overlook the fact that she was a shade over 5 foot tall.)
She loudly and proudly proclaimed one afternoon that she would rather die alone than conform to some Barbie doll image.
I understand that the Paramedics were rushed to her home that night…
…apparently she had gotten her face stuck in a gallon ice cream container.
April 15, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Funny; even as it is, and speaking our minds as much as we do, most men are still bewildered when their partners decide to leave them. Maybe instead of asking women not to complain, men should start to take hints.
When she tells you to change the way you dress, it’s because you look like a slob and if you want better sex, it starts with looking attractive. If you need new furniture, it’s because it’s too hard to orgasm while f*cking you on a couch that smells and looks like shit.
Just for the record, women do notice the attractiveness of other women around them. We actually talk at length about flight attendants both male and female. And we’re no less sexual than men are; we get in relationships because we want to be around manergy on a regular basis, and we want to get a steady supply of sex. If that steady supply has unfortunate taste in clothing, furniture, or is an irresponsible ass, then it affects our desire to continue being with (and sleeping with) that person.
April 16, 2008 at 9:05 am
The era of attractive stewardesses is long over, or at least the era in which they were all attractive. About the five foot tall woman who weighed 150 lbs, she can loudly proclaim her refusal to change, but she will be able to attract a much less desireable guy unless she improves her appearance. Guys are highly visual.
Mr. Sensitive’s original post and Momochacha’s reply illustrate an interesting topic: how each partner attempts to persuade the other to change. Men generally want their wives or girlfriends to shed some body fat and have sex more often, while women want to get their husbands or girlfriends to change in a wider variety of areas (clothes, decor, income, attentiveness, etc.).
There’s an old saying, “Women want one man to meet their every need, while men want many women to meet their one need.” It’s difficult for a woman to find a guy who can meet all her needs, so I suppose it’s easier to find a guy who seems to be close and work with him to get him the rest of the way there. This is sometimes frustrating, both both parties. I think this is what gives rise to a lot of relationship friction (and not the good kind of friction).
The only advice I can offer women is to be more positive than negative when trying to persuade your guy to make changes you want. One attracts more flies with honey than vinegar.