Mr. Sensitive’s original post and Momochacha’s reply illustrate an interesting topic: how each partner attempts to persuade the other to change. Men generally want their wives or girlfriends to shed some body fat and have sex more often, while women want to get their husbands or girlfriends to change in a wider variety of areas (clothes, decor, income, attentiveness, etc.).

There’s an old saying, “Women want one man to meet their every need, while men want many women to meet their one need.” It’s difficult for a woman to find a guy who can meet all her needs, so I suppose it’s easier to find a guy who seems to be close and work with him to get him the rest of the way there. This is sometimes frustrating, both both parties. I think this is what gives rise to a lot of relationship friction (and not the good kind of friction).

The only advice I can offer women is to be more positive than negative when trying to persuade your guy to make changes you want. One attracts more flies with honey than vinegar.

When she tells you to change the way you dress, it’s because you look like a slob and if you want better sex, it starts with looking attractive. If you need new furniture, it’s because it’s too hard to orgasm while f*cking you on a couch that smells and looks like shit.

Just for the record, women do notice the attractiveness of other women around them. We actually talk at length about flight attendants both male and female. And we’re no less sexual than men are; we get in relationships because we want to be around manergy on a regular basis, and we want to get a steady supply of sex. If that steady supply has unfortunate taste in clothing, furniture, or is an irresponsible ass, then it affects our desire to continue being with (and sleeping with) that person.