Online dating provides a huge ego boost to attractive women
Posted by Mr. Thoughtful on June 9, 2008
I’ve written before that online dating is heavily tilted toward attractive women. That’s because 1) except for EHarmony, there are more men than women who are members of dating services, and 2) men everywhere are after attractive women. A moderately attractive woman who posts her pic on Match.com or Yahoo Personals will get thousands of emails or other expressions of interest in a year.
Here we have confirmation of this phenomenon from another source. The following interesting discussion appears in The Guardian:
… it’s a super ego-booster. Every evening I’m on it, I have at least 30 men wanting to chat with me and meet me,” says a French senior civil servant, a single woman in her early 30s. Before contacting her, the 30 men have clicked on the “flash” icon to let her know that they find her especially attractive. Before condescending to reply, she double-checks their profile: age, picture, education, income and marital status.
She chooses them like a discerning consumer, and only replies to married men. “For the moment, I am looking for fun, not love. I do a first pre-selection, and send a standard reply to the unlucky ones out of courtesy. As for the selected few, according to their wit and their language skills … I draw a shortlist of perhaps three and agree to meet them…
It’s a simple issue of supply and demand: pre-select candidates, test sales pitch, draw a shortlist, have a face-to-face interview, hire on the spot, dismiss without notice …
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/story/0,,2132546,00.html
Attractive women get so much attention online that they become more and more demanding in what guys they are willing to date. They create the infamous 463 bullet point list of characteristics they insist upon. And the moment the guy de jour fails to meet one of those 463 points, the woman is back to her computer to bring up another crop of men who might meet her rigid specifications.
June 13, 2008 at 3:58 am
Online dating and all the requests that pour in with it definitely helps women reaffirm what they DON’T want; but keep in mind that after a while we also realize our chances of finding exactly what we need (whether it’s low-key fun with an attractive, age appropriate, hygienic man or something else) is extremely low.
I remember that at first I adjusted my profile a dozen times or so just to try and weed out requests from undesireables, but it didn’t work, and only made me sound pickier than I am. In the end, I gave up; 97% of the men on these Web sites–especially the ones who pay enough to contact us directly–are not men we’d want to talk to, online or in real life.
July 3, 2008 at 1:33 am
Thats definitely true. My sister posted a profile on yahoo personals just for fun. She’s fairly attractive and she got all sorts of messages from other members. I heard it’s really no different on MySpace. The more attractive teenage girls on MySpace gets a lot of messages from other teenage boys.