Pickup techniques, for long-term or short-term relationships
Posted by Mr. Thoughtful on June 10, 2008
I posted last week some material about Roissy, the psuedonym of a pickup artist who blogs. He made an interesting response to a critic who lambasted him for discussing the pickup skills that allow guys to meet women, charm them, go to bed with them, then abandon them for their next conquest:
… the skills that make a player are the same skills that help a regular man find, capture, and keep his dream girl. it’s a lifestyle and a mental state change.
I’ve had this same thought. A guy can use these skills for either purpose: having short-term relationships with lots of women or having a long-term relationship. But even if the guy wants a long-term relationship, I suspect he improves his chances of finding one if he uses the skills of the pickup artist. These skills seem to capture a woman’s interest better than the plain-vanilla alternatives women hear all the time (hi, I’m so and so, what’s your name, do you come here often, etc.).
You can read all about these techniques in Neill Strauss’s book, “The Game” about his time with the legendary pickup artist who calls himself Mystery (the techniques are more fully set out in a book Mystery himself wrote).
I saw an interesting illustration of this at work a few months ago, on the Dr. Phil show of all places. He interviewed two guys who used something very much like the Mystery Method of pickup, in which the guy and his wingman go up to a woman in a bar and try to capture her interest (without seeming like they want to capture it). They tried it on several women from the audience. These women responded to these techniques, even though they had just been told they were being guinea pigs for the pickup artists techniques.
The women said afterwards that they were intrigued by what the guys were saying and would be much more interested in those guys than the other guys who hit on them.
But back to the main point of this post – if you’re a guy looking for a long-term relationship, you first have to meet women. It makes sense to use the best method available to meet them. I’m convinced some of the pickup artists have the best methods. These methods have, after all, been field-tested. The best of these pickup artists keep those techniques that work and discard those that don’t.
momochacha88 said
I think people get so obsessed with the idea that men play games to win the attention of women and lose the bigger picture. Women often fail to realize that they write off plenty of perfectly good potential partners because their pickup skills are lacking, and then turn around and fall for guys who may have great game, but bad intentions. The moral of the story is NOT that women should stop going for men with good game; it’s that ALL men, especially the good ones, should step up their game, and women should be more cautious with testing the waters even if a guy gives an amazing first impression.
I’m also very unforgiving toward men with no game. Sure, you may have great personality qualities, killer looks, a great job, and you may even want committment; but how good is any of that if you can’t even muster the balls or intelligence to win the attention of a woman you’re interested in?
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