The always-interesting Roissy in DC wrote a post advising guys how to date “out of their league”, improving their chances of meeting a woman who is an 8, 9, or even a 10. He has a lot of suggestions, but this one ties in with a theory I have:
A former fatty, by dint of her painful past dealing with the cold stares of indifference and sneers of cruelty, will be grounded and grateful for male attention. A former fatty’s mindset is still that of the fat girl she left behind – the mind changes slower than the body. The time to strike is when her memories are strong and her reconstructed body is tight. The fatter a former fatty was, the more appreciative she will be of your romantic interest … Caution: The longer a former fatty is skinny, the more her soul will twist into the corrupted spectre of a self-absorbed egomaniac princess.
I think he has a great point. A woman seems to develop a self-image regarding her appearance. If she is hot, she develops the hot self-image and she will almost always be harder to meet, and harder to deal with generally. As the pickup artists would say, you’ve got to have serious game to get past her defenses and go out with her.
I’ve noticed that women who were once hot but whose appearance has gone downhill with age often still have quite a bit of the hot-girl attitude. I know one woman who was very attractive and popular for decades, but then gained fifty pounds within a year or so. She still acted like she was extremely hot and guys should still be drawn to her like crazy.
In a different section of the post linked to above, Roissy addresses women who are over a certain age. He says they eventually become convinced that their appeal has diminished considerably and stop acting like 9s or 10s.
One a side note: the worst situation is where you meet a young, hot girl, marry her, and then her appearance goes downhill but she still has the hard-to-deal-with hot girl attitude.
Roissy advises guys to take advantage of the situation where this trend goes in reverse: the woman was once unattractive but is now very attractive.
