Let me share this with you. As someone, privvy to the details of this matter, and clearly a champion for Chandra Myers, you must also be aware that according to an article published in the New York Daily News (8/23/09) referencing Chandra Myers, as a “fake advocate” who reportedly stole $25,000 dollars from an elderly man,reportedly “wiping out his entire savings” as well as the deed to his home. Perhaps the shame you so generously apply to the “paramours” you refer to as victims of abuse should be ushered towards Chandra Myers. With six counts of Grand Larceny and Forgery (felony crimes) that Chandra Myers is charged with, she is now facing 15 years of jail time.

I would direct you to the New York Unified Court system, it’s all a matter of public record regarding Case Number: 12804-2008 Kings County, New York (State of New York v Chandra Myers) but obviosuly you know this, as you where there on February 24, 2009, when she was arrested at 11:30 am EST; at the arraignment on 6/19/09; and on 7/16/09 when she was charged with 6 FELONY counts, and will be present in front of Judge John P. Walsh on September 15, 2009. Hopefully, justice will be served! Good Luck in court (You will need it).

Clearly, you are not going to suggest that the New York Daily News reporter, who wrote the story, or the New York DA, who filed the charges against Chandra Myers, or the eldrely reported victim, are also mindless “paramours” of Robert Sean Myers.

If you continue to submit fradulent postings, with false information, you will be dealing with that matter in court along with your felony hearing; your lawsuits against Bimbo Bakeries, Sara Lee Bakeries, and your ongoing child support case. Now that’s amazing!

My main question is whether the nutty, aggressive, narcissistic, threatening posts are actually from this Chandra, or someone trying a smear campaign on her. right now, I”m leaning towards the former, because I just heard her on blogtalk radio, and her email and phone#/ were repeatedly announced. I saw her Amazon reading list (religious taint) and the “gobignetwork” thing seeking $1 million sponsorship.

I deal with and advocate for a number of women who are unable to leave domestic violence situations safely (I’m still working on it — been 10 years) and/or who lost their children suddenly through the family law system,w hich is where we believe batterers go to hide. We are taking a lot of hate talk and slammin’ from the father’s groups, and I tell you, to survive assaults in the home, stalking, losing it all, and then public stereotyping and bad-talking on-line (I call it rabble rousing) is pretty intimidating. I actually know some of the funding going through the government on many of these issues, and the relationships between different groups.

I left an abusive relationship long ago, and wasn’t able to get all the way free, in part because of the games our government is playing around this issue of Child Support and the Family Court. I think it’s basically a way to get everyone furious with each other (Dads vs. Moms) and then keep the populace poor so bunches of PhDs can do better studies on the rest of us. At least that’s one of my current takes. I haven’t run across too many people who think that’s the issue, but HEY, it beats the viewpoint that all fathers are good upstanding characters, and all mothers are faking domestic violence claims in order to get the kids (and live off the government).

Anyhow in the course of looking into these issues one of us ran across a post — by Ms. (or Dr. or Rev.) Chandra (Myers, Cromwell, whichever) – about a child support enforcement official who was himself a deadbeat Dad (a term we use for people who don’t pay up when they clearly have the ability to, which this guy did). Amazingly, it seems he is on the government salary, but chose to spend weekends in jail rather than pay his ex-wife. Then someone looked up the dockets, posted them, and used the word “deadbeat” in connection NOT with Chandra Myers’ ex, but with the individual in question.

Some people shared what we found on the web, with her name & phone# under it. This OCSE official’s misdeeds were then checked on the docket, and put together with the public profile, and we protested (a few of us). I also called, following up, the Chandra Myers #E. It took a while for me to realize, despite the official title “Family Court Petitioner and Advocate” which i thought might be some title they have on East Coast they don’t on the West, that she was a litigant like anyone else. Well, not exactly.

So, that info was posted on a blog — not by me, and not by the person Chandra (or someone using her ID) has been tailing, and hounding. My colleague was threatened with a lawsuit for using a wrong word in describing a 3rd party. This colleague got a half-literate email criticizing (far as I can tell) someone else’s spelling (Which I just checked — and there was none, just some punctuation stuff). This colleague, who did nothing more than what the rest of us do — research things related to our topics and share them sometimes, was accused of posting something she didn’t, she was told “I have your IP adn know you posted” (obviously false) and was furious that something actually just family support was instead called child support, and about the word “deadbeat” in the title — which my colleague hadn’t even written, that is being attacked.

I went looking again today and just heard a blogtalkradio with Chandra on it. She has a real sweet tone, very charming, and appears to have done what a lot of parents have — their own research, and figured out that the courts are screwy and you’re best off checking facts and following through,rather than letting an attorney sit by and fail to, or anyone in particular assigned by a government agency to do anything. In that, she’s right — but not unique. She is talking about national coalitions, as if there weren’t any already, and doesn’t appear to have even a blog, a nonprofit name, or anything that such a SMART person might have put together, and a lot of smart (AND hardworking) women I know DID do.

All I can say is the communication that has disrupted a few days of not just my time, but others’ as well (and we’re doing worthwhile things with our time) smacks of “narcissistic sociopath,” which is a term my ex’s NEW woman used to describe him, and I think it’s dawning on her now how she was used. Stalking through the internet is a HORRIBLE thing to do to anyone, let alone off it (which is worse, and could for sure/ and does) result in people getting killed. It’s an awful form of abuse, and is intended to, and does make life hell for others, needlessly.

I’ll say this — narcissism doesn’t brook any competition. It made me think twice to hear a woman talking as though there were no other people addressing the problems in the family courts, when there have been for well over a decade, probably at least 2 at this point. They aren’t gender neutral, either.

I’m of the opinion that if a court issues a child support order (even if a rotten nasty unfair one), then it should be enforced. So I was like, hey, go-girl — that’s a lot, but if the order is issued, then if we are going to have SOME reason and stability around here, it should be enforced. I sure as heck couldn’t get any kind of orders actually consistently obeyed. So it was, “go-girl!”

My case consisted entirely of the child support agency ReFUSing to enforce, and basically discouraging me from doing so myself, saying I don’t stand a chance, etc. While all this was going, I had stalking, escalation, inciting others to act aggressively towards me, til the point got to, my friends had to separate from me because they couldn’t take the pressure put on THEM because of HIM. It was unreal. At first I was like, hey thanks for sorting through m real friends from the fairweather ones, but then it got to really hurting people, including financially. Then, rather than actually follow through on getting someone to get a job (jobs were around, this wasn’t the issue in our case), he simply nabbed the children so there would be no more obligation. STILL isn’t working much, and my profession was not redeemable. I’m not out YET.

I lived with a pathological liar (and abuser) for years, when living with him, it wasn’t the lies, but the flat-out physical assaults, verbal abuse, sabotaging my work and relationships (particularly anything that inspired or nourished me as a person), and afterwards, when he couldn’t just haul off and slap or throw me around (day or night any more) he went after my family (turned them pretty easy — not too surprising when you figure out, where were they during the abuse, anyhow?? ) and with them have gone after other DECENT people I have been associated with, and loved and worked with. This was a single mother. Then he and his new “beau” (who just figured out his true character, see above), snatched our (his & my )daughters on an overnight visitation adn cut off all contact. Now she wants to be “friends” with me, and I’m trying to figure that one out, but she’s maybe a key to my seeing my girls again. I had PTSD in court, and right now everyone’s broke, it’s a “detente” I suppose. This is pretty much what family law will do to almost anyone, and is designed to, but some character flock there for the fun and games.

It bothers me that Ms.Dr.Rev. Chandra would seem to be like this, and something doesn’t smell right. What I’d REALLY like to know is (1) was it really an internet match, and just long enough to get her pregnant?, AND (2) what’s the deal on Mr. Myers. Telling his present job doesn’t do a lot when it comes to child support issues — some guys work, and some guys intentionally don’t. What’s with the 5 other children, and was he (as one post said) an ex-millionaire? If Amazing (or someone else) wants to let me know, pls. see my site, and you might learn a thing or too also (i’m not selling anything).

Has Chandra ever held a REAL job, and does she have any other children? There’s more than one way to make a living (“real” jobs aren’t the only way for sure, but the ability to hold one tells me something about a person…..).

Hope this makes it through. Maybe I’ll call that 617 number again. It could be the woman just wants her internet ratings to go up.

This is wearing on the soul, for sure.

I don’t know about the rest of you whiney weebles,…but I knew 10/23/03..and filed soon thereafter. I realized NO erstwhile Poontang Life support system, was EVER worth the degradation and rampant depersonalization I was being pushed thru.

“Jake, Why the Hell don’t you kick her “entitled ass” to the curb in 24 hrs ?” “It will never get any better”. You are nothing but a “Potted-Palm”..and shame on you for letting yourself be treated as such.

I am content with never getting married again. I have fallen in with a group of fine young women who (like me) never want to be chained and lobotomized again–so “Friends with Benefits” is the Order of the Day. It’s kinda like F**king your classmate–for a class exercise–but much better!

My kids are happy I am dating again—but they do not want another “Mother”–they prefer a stable, balanced female role model to become a friend–first and foremost. They, like me, prefer this greatly to the “Drama Mama” and all the entitled accoutrements.

Good luck.

I’m not of the guys-are-jerks school, but I do think that men, too, have cyclical moods involving crankiness and depression, especially as they age.

I have found that men who are great lovers know how to help “relieve” the pressure/stress/tension so that means that all the rest of the guys will just have to deal with it the old fashioned way….LOL

At least women have something to take to alleviate the tension/stress, what exactly is there that men can take for being jerks that women have to deal with on a regular basis. Nothing yet, however, I’m still hopeful.

Except for John F. Kennedy’s wife, you have to go back at least to the 1920s to find even a moderately attractive first lady (Grace Coolidge, if memory serves).

I wonder if more of them were attractive when they got married and their looks deteriorated later. Or perhaps their husbands were small fry when they got married, so they couldn’t attract hot wives.